Okay full out confession time.
One of the places I feel MOST discouraged as a working Mom is wanting to obtain and maintain deep, meaningful and authentic relationships with other women.
I feel like I have a friendship WELL inside that continually gets dried up and needs re-filling and somedays it really frustrates me as I want to be “okay” doing my own thing.
I notice it on days like today, when I have spent at least a week without a meaningful or at least slightly personable conversation with another woman.
Can I tell you something? We need each other.
Like for real. We were made for community.
As a busy, working Mom, this feels almost IMPOSSIBLE at times.
But I am telling you, you cannot, CANNOT, ignore your God-given design and need for community.
I don’t know what your schedule is like.
I don’t know what your life looks like, but there has to be space and time for friendships.
We cannot do this alone!
We need encouragement, we need to talk to each other (face to face!), we need to pray for each other, we need to laugh together, cry together, eat ice cream together and whine together:)
I know that first and foremost, my most deepest needs are met in Christ. That has to be numero uno.
If it is not, we will have unfair expectations of others.
But know this sweet sister, you have legitimate, real, God-given design and need for friendship.
I am not always good, let me take that back, I seriously struggle with small talk, it is painful, it makes me cringe, but I am working it.
I am a natural introvert, so I tend to tuck in like a turtle to process all of my big feelings and then all of a sudden I am ready to come out into the world and explode onto people.
I want to know people probably WAY faster than they are ready to be KNOWN and it is hard for me to do the slow, steady work of building friendship.
But it is worth it, it is worth GOLD, it is like better than jumping into a cold pool on a steaming hot day, better than a big slice of watermelon and better than binge watching your favorite show. I know you may not believe me NOW, but one day, you will:)
So, what do I do?
How do I do friendship?
1. I have some close ladies I connect with mostly via texting and email (the introverts favorite way to communicate!).
2. I also now have a prayer partner that I actually talk to on the phone once/week.
3. Lastly, I make an effort for a coffee date at least twice/month with a girlfriend.
I have one very close friend whom I don’t see often that I can always connect with for coffee but…
In this particular season of my life, I am trying to focus more on being a friend, so I invite ladies I do not know very well out for coffee from my local church.
It is scary but freeing.
So how is this encouraging for YOU?
Well I want to encourage you to connect with someone TODAY.
You need it.
They need it.
It doesn’t have to be anything major.
Just ask God to help you find a moment to connect with the heart of another woman who knows the Lord.
And, I am going to do for you what I typically have to do with all of my big feelings and needs (so that I do not scare people in person) is WRITE something for you…
…that is how God uses me and gives me so much joy to offer friendship this way to others…
I thank you and I praise you for the ladies that read this blog that you have allowed me to connect with.
I want to thank you for each and every woman who is in this group.
I pray today that you would equip these women to do your kingdom work.
Help these women to know who they are in you and to know their purpose IN you.
May they be aware of their spiritual gifts and find space and time in their lives to serve you.
As they live out your purpose for them which is to know you, enjoy you and glorify your name, I know that they will be fulfilled, strengthened and blessed.
Help them to be warriors for Christ.
When troubles come, which they always will, help them to be prepared to fight against the enemy.
May these women be in your Word and in prayer daily and continually.
May these women put you first in their lives.
May these women love you more than they love anything or anyone else.
Bring them godly sorrow that leads to true repentance in any area of chronic sin or bondage.
Help them to live out a victorious life in you as they follow you, resist the enemy, turn from sin and daily make a choice to be YOURS and to surrender ALL of their life to you.
May these women be a light within their homes, their workplaces, and their communities.
Wherever they go, may the Holy Spirit shine from their hearts to those around them.
Give them opportunity to share the Gospel on a regular basis.
Help them overcome any hesitancy of being a witness for you in this world.
Remind them that they are worthy to be your ambassadors because of Christ and because of your grace, that they do not have to be “good enough”.
You, Jesus, are good enough IN THEM.
Help them to remember that your power is made perfect in their weakness.
Lord, help these women to be bold and to be warriors, but also help them to find rest in you.
The daily task of living for you can be hard, we know that we can find shelter in the shadow of your wings.
Help these ladies to be ladies that know how to rest in you.
Give them your perfect peace that passes all understanding to guard their hearts and their minds in Christ Jesus.
In Jesus Name,